I don’t mean…when I have glandular fever or monovirus or food poisoning or something, obviously.
Just, like, the way I am now, with a cold that has laid me on the couch for the last 24 hours, stuffed up and fatigued with a fuzzy head and – OK, I know- a lot of snot.
Slightly ill. Not proper sick.
It’s definitely not stopping me feeling horny. Which is weird- you’d think that your body would shut that down so you can concentrate on getting better. Continue reading “Am I the only one who gets horny when I’m sick?”
What kind of a submissive am I?
No two submissives are alike. Every sub needs to define her own path.
As I wrote in part 1 ‘My path into being a submissive’, it took me quite a while to learn enough about the world of kink to begin defining my own BDSM role. I still feel I have a lot to learn. I’ve been on this journey only a few years.
And I think my tastes are, also, constantly evolving as I enter into new play relationships and try new things, with new people and in new environments.
For the moment, here is what I know about my submissive identity, the kinks I have and how I like to play. Continue reading “My submissive identity (Part 2: My path into submission)”
My friend said to me the other day: “I just haven’t felt sexy. For ages. I don’t even think about sex. How do I feel sexy again?”
I 100% know that feeling.
Sometimes I wake up in the morning, shrugging off my partner’s warm hand on my back, heading to the shower without a backward glance. His touch, normally something I sink into with pleasure, just feels… irritating to me. Extraneous.
And then, I realise that it’s been …a week or so since I had sex. Or even wanted to have sex.
Maybe even a couple of weeks, if things have gotten quite bad and I haven’t noticed. It’s like sex has just stopped existing for me. (The worst dip, for me, was three months not wanting sex. That was a bad time.) Continue reading “11 things I do to feel sexy again when my desire has gone”
This is Part 1 of a short series all about how I became a submissive and began exploring kink and BDSM. I’ll put Part 2 up soon.
I still remember the exact day I first decided to enter the world of BDSM.
(You’ll be pleased to know, it has nothing to do with Fifty Shades of Grey).
I had just decided to end things with a man I had been dating. He was attractive to me- sexually. But he was also a bit controlling, and a bit careless.
His classic move was to cancel dates at the last minute, after I had kept my diary clear for him. And then be incredibly unapologetic about it, as if I didn’t matter that much anyway. Continue reading “My path into being a submissive, Part 1: How NOT to find a Dominant”
My first ever orgasm was with a sex toy. A hard, pink, plastic vibrator. It made more noise than a food processor, and was about as sexy, but I still remember it fondly.
It completely blew my mind to have an orgasm for the first time.
I was 23, and for the first time I understood what it meant in all those erotic stories when they would say things like ‘Her pussy pulsed and contracted’ and ‘she felt a warm sensation spreading out from her clit, through her whole body’ and ‘she shouted uncontrollably’.
I had genuinely thought these writers were just making it up. That they were exaggerating. There was simply no such feeling.
Continue reading “Why I’m quitting my vibrator (for a while)”