Goals for 2019: An MMF threesome, compersion, and more

Here are some vague goals I’m developing around sex, kink and polyamory for 2019. After a pretty intense year in 2018,  and what with starting a new full-time job this year, I probably need to expect a bit less of myself in 2019, and just aim for goals that are relatively achievable!

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Goals for 2019

  1. An MMF threesome. Longstanding fantasy. (It will be my second, but my first in several years).  How will I go about this? Jack’s keen, but, my main play partner isn’t in a position to do this with me. So we’ll have to find someone else. Watch this space!
  2. Practice reaching orgasm, using only my fingers (no buzzing vibrator) and without watching porn or reading erotica- just my imagination! That’s hard for me. I had some success in doing this when I first quit my vibrator, but ended up lapsing a bit and picking up the vib again, as life got busy towards the end of the year. I want to put some renewed energy into this.
  3. Practice being more open and generous in my polyamorous relationships and cultivate feelings of compersion* in my anchor relationship. I specifically want to support Jack in making more solid connections this year, including getting another girlfriend, which he wants and I support (but I might still find hard).
  4. Find myself a regular female play-partner and have all the lady sex, including fucking with a strap-on.
  5. Maintain this blog with at least three posts a month. Hard? Yes. Possible? Yes.
  6. Continue to support my women’s group, by giving them some more new experiences and valuable resources around sexuality and sex, partly  sourced from connections I make in this blogosphere. I want to find more practical resources around how to feel sexy when your desire has gone– something that many of them struggle with (and I sometimes do too). If you know of something, share it please!

*Compersion: Feeling joy and happiness at your partner’s happiness when they build a relationship/sexual connection with someone else.

Author: CuriousMermaid

I am a thirty-something woman. I write about sex, bi/pansexuality, kink and open relationships/polyamory from personal experience.

3 thoughts on “Goals for 2019: An MMF threesome, compersion, and more”

  1. Some great goals there! You make me feel rather lazy as I don’t think I have really had goals. I have rather pootled along. However you have made me think though of a rather pleasant mmf encounter I had back in the late 70s. Happy days.

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